AI art by me…with someone special in mind. 😉

As always, I never intend to be seen as any kind of expert.  I just have my opinions and experiences.  I write to enlighten or create discussion.  I don’t write to enter into debate, and I won’t debate back.  FYI.

Today, I was having a lovely conversation with a slave/sub.  She’s not mine and isn’t anyone’s at this time, but she told me she feels like she’s a burden on Doms/Masters.  This is based on her one experience with Domming or Topping that thoroughly drained her.  She feels it must be somewhat similar to what we feel in our interactions with subs or slaves.  I’ve told her it couldn’t be further from the truth.

The need, desire, fetish, whatever to dominate or master should be something that feeds the Dom when it is fulfilled.  Let’s be honest, Folks.  A sub or slave does a lot more of the work in a dynamic than the Dom.  Well, they should.  If a Dom is stupid enough to let the sub run him, then…that’s his problem.

As I’ve written before, this is a symbiotic relationship.  The sub/slave needs to serve or be put in their place.  This has varying degrees based on the sub/slave.  I tend to gravitate to the ones who want to be dominated strongly or mastered.  More than one submissive of mine has told me I am an “intense” Dom.  I feel this is because I am more Master than Dom at heart.

I don’t take disobedience.  I don’t tolerate brats.  Again, more than once, I’ve been told I have “tamed” or “broken” the brat in a submissive or slave.  How?  By getting them to care enough that they never want to disappoint me with disobedience.  One slave I spoke with told me recently, “I feel like I’m being hypnotized…is it always like this for you?”  The answer is no…not always.

Back to my main point, when my sub/slave…heh…or even someone else’s sub/slave is obedient to me?  It feeds me in many ways, both emotionally, physically, and psychologically.  I’ve always said a real Dom should get just as much satisfaction out of the obedience as the sex.  Her submission/obedience to me is like spiritual food/power she kneels and gives me in a humble pose (symbolically or literally speaking).

Is it a job being a Dom or Master?  Yes, it is.  It has duties, responsibilities, and codes of conduct, among other things.  However, it is a job I love to do, and the parts I mentioned of it are a delight to do.  My sub/slaves should never worry that they are a burden.  They lighten my burden with their caring, their efforts, their obedience, their overwhelming need to please me even when I haven’t yet asked.  It’s a beautiful thing.