AI art by me: “Risky Business”

I wanted to write this into today’s post for what will be obvious reasons.  Sabrina Carpenter, singer, recently came out with a cover picture for her new album “Man’s Best Friend.”  I will share it below:

Many people are up in arms about the photo and what it represents.  This is from feminists to domestic violence groups and so forth.  For the sake of the argument, I’d like to point out that her single hit “Manchild” is done with heavy tongue-in-cheek as she admits she chooses these kinds of men to be in her life.  To know this, a person would have actually to listen to the song and understand the lyrics.  

This example is pretty tame, as photos show a woman kneeling before a man.  The dude isn’t even holding her hair correctly!  She is not close enough to do anything of interest.  Sigh.  Yet it is too sexual.

In my experience and observations, D/s dynamics almost require a position of kneeling to the dominant, male or female.  In fact, one of the first things a submissive begins to practice is kneeling and rising until it becomes easier and more fluid.  If the idea of having a submissive kneel to you and feel very comfortable there is strange to you then you might not be a dominant.

Lila and Phoebe are quite comfortable kneeling naked for me while I am still fully clothed.  We can even have conversations this way.  There’s a fascinating transition in a woman’s face and eyes just before she kneels to you.  It’s a switch from vanilla them to submissive them.  They feel it profoundly each time.  Often, they will close their eyes a moment and bow their heads as they settle into the position and its symbolism.  

Personally, I have Lila and Phoebe trained such that they are naked before they kneel.  This is also part of the transition.  I could say take off your clothes or get naked but I always use the simple command: Strip.  There’s a harsh reality to this one word.  There’s no getting around the fact they are being commanded to take their clothes off in a way that is pleasing to me and, again, I can see the transformation in their faces and eyes as they bare themselves physically, emotionally, and psychologically to me – their dominant or Master.

Both girls have softer terms for me as dominant.  Lila likes using Poppa.  Phoebe likes using Daddy.  I have them use whichever works best to arouse them as they say it.  A fascinating thing I’ve noticed is that after a rather intense session of sadistic play on my part or being very dominant in whether or not they are allowed to orgasm, they both will default to Sir.  Lila most often moves to Master even if we hadn’t started that way.  Deep submission is given to the harsher or more dominant Sir or Master rather than Poppa or Daddy.  

In Lila’s case, we’ve played with the acronym of MSP for me.  Master, Sir, Poppa.  It’s our shorthand for saying I am all three for her at the same time.  I’ve teasingly called it the Unholy Trinity.  The new movie out stole my trademark name!  It isn’t even that good of a movie.  Although, Phoebe kept distracting me while we were watching it!  Good/Bad Girl!!

As of last night, I have taken both of them past Red and into tears.  Each have commented on the cathartic feeling of it.  Phoebe went so far as to be sobbing.  Rest assured, in all those cases there was communication beforehand and permission given for me to go that far.  There was a desire in them for me to take them that far. 

This is where I start to make the Spankos I know a little nervous.  Can I just enjoy spanking a woman without getting too far into the dominance and submission aspect?  Can I still enjoy it without the sexual component?  Hell, yeah.  The truth is that in talking directly with a couple of Spankos, I’ve found a lot of the negotiations and permissions given tread very close to the D/s and sexual side of it.  Whatever.

I will say that if you know you are a sadist, then do the ethical thing of only letting it happen with people who enjoy it.  Converting someone to masochism can work, and I’ve done it once or twice, but it’s so much better if they are already very aware of their own masochistic needs.  Both girls agree that a day without being marked is a day wasted…in theory.  Life happens; sometimes we can’t make sure that happens, but we do our best.

Showering today, I had to laugh when I noticed I was the one who had been marked!  I haven’t had a hickey in decades.  I do now, courtesy of Phoebe.  She loved the picture I sent her of it.  Hey, fair is fair…I’ll share the marks they give me since they always have to and want to share my marks on them.  

Munch-wise, I have one on Thursday Night and another on Sunday night. Next week, I’ve been INVITED via FetLife to two different Munch situations. One of them is at a Nightclub! Ooo!! A Play Party is coming up in August, and both the organizer and the host, Phoebe, have been working on figuring out how best for me to access it.