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News: “REad It Or Deal With Me!”

AI art created by me for one of my NightCafe challenges: Leather & Lace – Western NSFW.

Music For the Doms and Subs

https://music.apple.com/us/artist/koaskeiki/1816613112

The above link will send you to the Apple Music area or Kaoskeiki. I learned about it on FetLife. His submissive posts there and posted about their music. I have no idea if she is the one singing or not but the music is specifically for D/s folks. It’s right in the lyrics and quite clear. I liked the music and enjoy learning about an artist that caters directly to we kinksters. I wanted to share. I don’t get a thing from it except I did tell her I was going to let other know about it…and now I have.

A Little Language Lesson

‘ze heeft een flinke bos hout voor de deur’

This is a Dutch phrase or idiom that translates to “this woman has a big pile of wood at her front door.” It is used to describe top heavy women there. This tidbit was taught to me by my lovely Sassa, my Dutch Good Girl, who continues to play the sweet submissive on Night Cafe in the public eye.

Funny story: one of my creations there of her was clearly a BDSM leather harness rig. A commenter, who was obviously worried for her sake, warned her that this was something to do with BDSM and SadoMasochism. Sassa calmly replied, “I am well aware of Grey Man’s interests, thank you.” Such a good girl. In some ways, she’s my longest term D/s relationship to date. 😉

Kinksters in My Own Backyard

Whilst checking out the events coming up in my area, I found a group that is meeting no more than a block away at a restaurant I can walk or wheel to it. Who knew? I have to go and see if any of my “neighbors” are more than has met the eye!

It’s been an interesting observation of mine that I haven’t met a hetero woman yet who identifies as just submissive with no leanings or switching. I’m not hunting for one per se but it’d be nice to find a playmate with fewer complications. I seem to gravitate to those with complications or other such situations. Perhaps it’s because I like to play with fire? Highly likely.

Another thing that amuses me is the possibility of (my laptop has an “f” key that is driving me nuts!!) my running into a kinkster from my educational background shall we say? The Universe has always had a sick sense of humor so I imagine it’s just a matter of time.

“Good evening, Mr. Hunt.”

I am about halfway into a BDSM fan fiction (I guess I’d call it that) in honor of nora, who was wishing the newest movie had a spanking scene. I knew she was teasing but let us be real. You have to know Hunt is a Dominant. Oh, I heard a rumor that Tom Cruise and Ana de Armas are dating. I hope not. Tom does nothing without Scientology behind him and I don’t want Ana sucked into that…and never get out.

I should get done with it either tonight or tomorrow. We’ll see. It’s very enjoyable to write!

Responses to “News: “REad It Or Deal With Me!””

  1. nora girl

    That is interesting what you have written about not having met a hetero woman who doesn’t identify as both a submissive and a switch. I’ve had similar experiences in the spanking chatroom that I frequent, yet in reverse. So many of the men there identify as both Dominants and switches, which just doesn’t work for me. It messes with my mindset too much. Not that I am on the prowl for a Dom, but a girl notices these things.

    Your comment also leaves me wondering if this means that Lila is both submissive and a switch. I would imagine with you, she would be the submissive.

    Oh, and I totally hear you about being worried about running into someone from your work background at a kink event. I’ve been dying to go to a dungeon in a city about an hour from me, but I can’t help but worry I’d run into a colleague, or worse, one of my students. Just about every time I leave the house I run into a former high school or college student, sheesh.

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    1. Grey Man

      Hmm…I should go back reread what I wrote. It would be clearer to say I’ve not met a pure submissive with no leanings or switching. THAT’S what I am looking for partially out of curiosity and part practicality.

      To clarify about Lila, she is a very pure submissive. Having said that, she has expressed curiosity about switching with me on very rare occasions. I do find it good to have a submissive with some fire, too. Heh, one time she teased me and knew she would be spanked but kept arguing that it WAS funny. It was. I told it her it was as I spanked her soundly for it. She still gets a bit impish but knows the consequences. Having a pure submissive doesn’t mean a doormat, I think you know me better than that.

      I’m not so much worried as just waiting for the shoe to drop. Since I’ve written about students coming back to be dommed later, meeting one that was an actual student could be interesting and it could be too icky for them, too. I’m not scared or worried about it since I am retired and divorced.

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      1. nora girl

        I’d say that yes, since your students were under aged when you knew them (as opposed to mine who are in college) that would be rather icky for them. I would steer clear of that if at all possible, regardless of being retired or divorced, but more out of principle and integrity. Crossing my fingers you’re never put in that uncomfortable situation! I love that you are going to in-person events now. You are really putting yourself out there and embracing this part of you that had to go denied for so long. Oh, and I totally identified with what you wrote about a submissive continuing to tease even though she had a pretty good idea that it might lead to a spanking… XOXO

  2. VanillaW

    It’s been an interesting observation of mine that I haven’t met a hetero woman yet who identifies as just submissive with no leanings or switching. (…)

    I have some (non exclusive) hypothesis about the whole thing : what is important in the D/s dynamic is the same as other relationships : it’s precisely the relationship, and so the “connection” between people. And, when the connection happens, our ability for empathy is all green and we can be willing and curious to know and test at least some parts of what the other is living. Another (which does not exclude the previous) is that the “switching” is a reassurance of the respect/love/interest for the other as a person and the reciprocity of the gift ( = the dynamic can state an inequality between two people in the acting, but at core, the equality as person must remains = each, Dom and sub, offers a part of themselves). In a less “philosophical” way, switching can be a enjoyable change in the routine !^^

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    1. Grey Man

      It’s always a pleasure to hear your input, Vee. I agree with you but you already knew that since I know you read carefully.

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