Random Photo from BlueSky – Author/Photographer Unknown

I love so many things about submissive women that it’s hard to pick a favorite.  One that is definitely up at the top of my favorites list would be their unfailing honesty/loyalty/obedience when it comes to telling their Dom precisely the best ways of torturing her, punishing her, embarrassing her, you name it.

I’ve seen proof. 

Ask a submissive to go to the toy pile and pick the three worst implements to use on her in order of severity from least to most.  She will spend a careful amount of time deciding and will bring the Dom just what he wants.  It doesn’t matter that she is trembling when she hands the tools to him.  

Firstly, she’d been given a command, and the need to obey and obey properly is an inherent trait in a submissive.  The pain or discomfort of displeasing their Dominant is a real thing they truly feel physically as well as emotionally.  

Second, she wants him to do these things to her.  Why?  It’s some combination of her wicked enjoyment of the pain and so forth and going back to the first thing I mentioned.  I know of more than one submissive who gladly takes the pain to please her Dom or Sir.  She doesn’t crave it but is very willing to feed him.

Lastly, without the dynamic of having to obey even when she trembles, this becomes just another vanilla relationship. The trick for Dom is to realize when to exercise his “you will do this command” and when to leave it alone. It’s a big balancing act that will require him to listen to her and then decide if he’s going to overrule her.

I get preachy sometimes, but I feel responsible for trying to help.

I chose this photo because of the look on her face.  She does NOT like the ball gag, but she knows she either needs it or he needs her to need it.  It’s a bit complicated, but that doesn’t make it any less true.  Some may have heard me say or write that some toys or restraints are a crutch for the submissive.  This is true, but ball gags are slightly different because they serve a practical purpose.  

To be honest, if I know I’m going to really push her past some soft limits, then she deserves to use the gag so she doesn’t have to work to remember her volume. She has enough to worry about dealing with my diabolical plans for her.

It can even reach the point; I promise this is true, where the submissive will beg for things she knows he wants to do to her before he even asks or commands.  The story I wrote recently, Bree – Part 2, references this.  After Bree has begged to be able to spank herself for Sir, she follows up with a desire to spank her “naughty pussy” for him.  Jim ain’t stupid.  He allows her but also raises it slightly to stretch her even further.  

Granted, this is more for the submissives who are delectable (to me) masochists who are aroused by strict rules and punishments.  One thing I’ve noticed a lot lately is the number of submissives who have told me in private that their Dom/Daddy isn’t spanking them hard enough or often enough.  I’ve rarely heard anyone say she’s getting spanked too frequently.  It is what it is.

There are few greater joys for a sadistic Dom than to receive texts like the following:

“I’ve given myself a good swat on the bare, Sir.” 

“I love it when you tease my ass…”

“I’ve been stroking myself through my dress all day, thinking of you…”

“And now I think my naughty pussy needs a spanking too…”

“Are you looking forward to punishing my pussy, Sir?”

Master Grey