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In remembrance of it being International Woman’s Day today, I wanted to post about the compassion of women.

Men can be and should be compassionate as well, but it has been my experience that women are gifted with a far greater capacity for this than their male counterparts.

I could go into all the socio-physio reasons for this but I’d rather let others more qualified than me do that part of it. I just want to share my experiences and observations over the years.

One reason I feel women show compassion more often is because they watch for opportunities. Women are much more observant about what is going on around them than men. As I go through crowds, I notice unfailing it is the woman in a couple who sees me approaching and nudges her male companion to the side. He often isn’t even aware of it. They are often the first to get up when someone drops something to pick it up and help.

Just today, it’s Saturday so I am at my happy-place -my mall, I had gone up to get my order for lunch as it was now ready. I turn around and here is this lady who was in line ahead of me. She had a young boy with her. Now, she is standing next to me and offering to help me carry my lunch to my table.

Okay, a bit of truthing here, in places where there is a lot of distance or a lot of people, I used a wheelchair to get around. If you want to know more of why, feel free to ask. This also speaks to why women are often nudging their fellow companions out of the way as we pass each other.

The nice lady took my lunch and didn’t even ask what table. She’d seen where I had sat. Between you and me, it was a secondary table because there was a couple at MY table but it’s rude to kick people out of a space. I thanked her and she went on her way. To my knowledge, she had no reason to be at the counter except she saw me need help.

In the course of blogging here and even before when I had another blog, as Jaye Elise mentioned, as a writer I tend to bare my soul a bit through what I write in stories and most definitely through my poetry. There have been and continue to be some very fine women who have taken notice of when I am down or in pain. These women have taken it upon themselves to check in with me or correspond with me. It has made all the difference in the world.

Women are also compassionate in that they are patient with our (men) many foibles and stupidity. Yes, there are some that make fun of the fragile male ego. It is a real thing and it is somewhat more fragile than it should be. The compassionate ones step up and let a man be a man when he truly needs it.

This is especially true of submissive-minded women. They are blessed or perhaps cursed with an overwhelming need to make people feel better. They do this regardless of sex but I’m biased in thinking they feel it more strongly around strong or dominant men who might stumble here or there. Yes, we do that sometimes.

There is a darker aspect to this which I will touch on briefly. It’s been my observation that women can more easily shut-off their feelings when something bad needs to happen like punishment, etc. This is why I personally feel Dommes are a helluvalot more scary than Doms. I think there is a Domme somewhere in each woman but not necessarily a Dom in each man. This can also tie back to socio-physio reasons.

As I grew up, I always preferred the company of girls to guys. Growing up with physical differences about me, guys were very void of compassion. Girls still had it and some more than others. I soon grew to know the difference between compassion and pity. I loathe pity but have seen and continue to see it all too often.

My old profession was in education which has a LARGE majority of women in it as opposed to men. This didn’t bother me in the least. Here again, I saw examples of great amounts of compassion and kindness towards students as well as to other teachers.

I am very glad for the women I know, have known, and hope to get to know in the future. I celebrate their intelligence, articulation, and power. This does still fit into a D/s dynamic because the woman chooses to cede parts of her world and choices to the Dom. It is in the cases of these women being such powerhouses unto themselves that this gift is so precious, so rare, and to be cherished.

Jon Grey