AI art by Me. Inspired by RL observation at the Mall today.

I used to do a post like this every Sunday back in the old days (over a year ago). It was kind of a time to sit back, relax, and ponder the last week, etc.

A sign of the times? Young boy about ten was standing with his hand outstretched under a hand-sanitizer dispenser. He just kept waiting. I realized he was waiting for it to automatically dispense. It was, to my trained-eye, one you needed to push the lever! I told him so and he did then looked at it like it was some strange anomaly. I was just glad he didn’t look at me for the same reason.

My main thought today was about Social Contracts. According to our friend, the Internet, the definition is as follows: Social contract theory says that people live together in society in accordance with an agreement that establishes moral and political rules of behavior.

I can live with that as an understood definition. Who is the contract with? Each other, the government, businesses, and so forth would be the holders of said contracts with us. We also form our own. In the D/s or M/s dynamics, this contract is more clearly delineated. Supposedly, it is also spelled out in a marriage but there might be a few loopholes in that one.

The one I’m thinking the most about today is an oldie but goodie called The Golden Rule. “Do unto others before they can do unto and run!” No. That wasn’t it. You know which one I mean. Basically, treat others as you would like to be treated. I’ve been a recipient of this a few times this week and it’s been nice.

If we could only work it so everyone agreed with this then we’d be in much better shape as a society and world. Sadly, there are those who do treat other as they expect to be treated, as in betrayed, abused, taken-advantage-of, and more. Those people do live by my humorous definition earlier.

It is also a sad thing that some approach the D/s and M/s dynamics with the same frame of mind. This is totally wrong and does not reflect the real Lifestyle. Informed, clear, consent and ongoing communication are key in any friendship, relationship, or dynamic.

Sometimes, I hear from a reader of my stories who says…”but it just doesn’t work like that” in reference to how some dominants and subs just click. Well, I’ve found it goes work like that sometimes. A lot of people acknowledge Love at First Sight. Why not Dom or sub at First Sight as well? There will still be work to do and bumps to hit with bridges to cross – insert other metaphors here at will – before it will keep working.

That’s my musing for today.

Jon Grey