First, I think we’ll all agree that it has nothing to do with Sunday School or what society deems as good. I’m probably preaching or reaching to the choir about all this but there might be some who read this who don’t know as much as I think. To be honest, I’d love to know more about some of my readers but that’s a different tale.

We have discussed on this blog that the term Good Girl is not to be used lightly and not to be used to just any submissive. While it might be tempting and quite natural for it to roll of a dominant man’s lips, he does not have the right or, most often, the respect of said submissives. In other words, don’t use the term unless you know it will be received in the manner intended. How do you do this? Ask. If you’re too afraid to ask or too shy? You shouldn’t be using it anyway.

Defining a Good Girl is pretty much the same as defining a good submissive. My idea of what it means is probably a little different than others’ ideas. I will only speak for me.

A Good Girl is smart and that means intelligent and also wise about her dominant. As a good dynamic and bond grow between the two, she knows what he wants before he has to say it. She gives it to him and shows initiative to find new ways of pleasing. She also knows to not take that initiative too far.

For example…a text exchange between a dom and his long-distance submissive:

Sir, I was not able to obey as you wished.

Why is that?

It turns out I could not find the miniskirt I’d promised to wear with no panties today. I’m telling you to see what I should do.

Now this dom knows this woman has a love of tight booty shorts.

Would your shorts rub your clit enough to make it a difficult day without panties?

Yes, Sir. They would…delightfully so, Sir.

Then you have you answer for today. Keep looking for the skirt or find an acceptable substitute. Good girl for reporting and asking.

Yes, Sir, thank you, Sir.

She knew he would not be pleased but she didn’t try to just fix it without checking, thus earning a Good Girl status.

I was teasing a woman who had sent me an AI creation of her supposed self in short skirt and hinting there was nothing under it. She said it was for me to find out if she was bare. A good submissive of mine was a good girl and bent over to show me she was bare without me asking for it. Therein lies the difference.

A Good Girl remembers to support her dom even in vanilla situations when he needs her. He, in turn, should know he’s responsible to do the same for her. It takes respect and affection to garner it. Never, ever take a Good Girl for granted. It’s a fast way for her to question her worth to him and question the reality of their dynamic.

As you treat a Good Girl correctly, you will find she sinks deeper and deeper into her submission to you. Things she was hesitant about doing before? She will do them without being asked as a show of her new feelings. Terms she was shy about using before will become part of her language with you. She will even admit to darker fantasies than she’s ever shared with another.

As women are wont to remind me about sex, it’s more about the journey then the destination. If he worries too much about the destination then no journeys will be happening soon. A dynamic is such a journey and each one will be slightly different as all people are slightly different. A wise dom listens as well as speaks.

Master Grey