I was having a good conversation with a lovely submissive friend of mine and discussing one of the stories I wrote for today. In the course of our discussion, I came up with an idea as a follow up to my op-ed about misogyny the other day. For context read: /https://lazaruskane.wordpress.com/2025/01/27/misogyny-versus-dominance/

I call it the Doormat Defense.

It’s not all that complicated. I put forth that the kind of men who see and want their woman to be like doormats without thoughts, opinions, intelligence, capabilities, independence…these are the true misogynists. The rest of us, or at least me since I can’t truly speak for the rest of my gender and type, want a woman who can take care of herself without us having to coddle and command every little bit. We want a woman who is intelligent enough and cares enough to think of new ways to please us without having to be told.

Do we want obedience? Yes, we do. Blind obedience? To some degree…but consensual obedience? Yes. She enjoys knowing her place is taken care of by the dom both physically and emotionally. Will there be times she’d rather say no? Yes, but she gave away that right to him for this certain area: diet, exercise, sex, work, whatever. Does he ignore her like she is truly and object? A doormat? No. He may be strict, he may be a sadist in some ways, but she can see in his eyes, feel in his touch whether there is something there. It is because there WAS something there that she submitted to him in the first place.

So…in summary. A man who wants a doormat for a woman is truly one who despises, hates, has prejudice etc again females. They belong beneath his feet quite literally. They do exist. We all know one or two of them. Some of us do what we can to mitigate their effects on the world as best we can even when it can be dangerous to do so. I had to do that with a colleague a long time ago and I faced repercussions from it but it was worth doing.

Hopefully, this further clears up the differences. Bond wasn’t attracted to doormats. All the Bond girls were intelligent or professionals in different fields, etc. Okay, maybe Dink in Goldfinger wasn’t a scientist but she had a nice ass to smack. Smirking…just smirking. You might lose me on Kirk here…his writers weren’t very nice about his girls being all that brainy except for Dr. Marcus, of course…both in the tv series and the new movies. Anyway, op-ed done. Defense presented. Thank you.

Master Grey