“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose, by any other name would smell as sweet.” – Romeo

I will not claim to be a rose or be sweet but I am writing to clear up any confusion in the future. In the murky world of the D/s Lifestyle, most people do not use their real names for rather obvious reasons. I’ve gone by a few in my time but the one I need to focus on is Jon Masters.

Almost a year to the day, missing it by three weeks, I left a well-established blog that was growing quite well. The plain reason for this was I was given the choice of the “world I had created for myself” or my family. I chose family. I had been quite clear with those closest to me that this would be the case if it came up. It came up. I also mislead everyone to an extent that I had the approval and foreknowledge of my family. This was not true. For that deception, I apologize to any who remember it or were hurt by it.

I have since entered into a situation where I no longer need to chose as I am going to be a single man soon and free to become who I feel I am. I always expressed that I was no expert and all I wrote in DomTalks etc were my opinion. For those who wonder, I have reconnected with those closest to me at that time and they know the full story. They have reacted as they have seen fit.

For me, I have gone through some very big life changes in the past three years of which this current change is probably the biggest. I am good with where I am and who I am now. Oh, I’m still a work-in-progress, who isn’t if they are honest? I felt the need to “clear the air” so no one would get hurt feelings later that I misrepresented myself as Jon Grey when I had been someone else. Jon Masters is no more and was a name with more than a little hubris to it. I am now Jon Grey which fits me much better than pretending to be some kind of patient wolf symbol. I am a guy. I make mistakes and I’ve made mistakes. I will make more mistakes.

Grey works for me because I do see a lot of grey areas in a lot of places where people claim it is only black and white. It isn’t…everyone has a shade of grey in them somewhere that they think is okay because it’s private and only for them to know. This is fine. I am choosing to acknowledge I am Grey and not terrible white or terribly black. I am somewhere in-between.

Jon Grey formerly known as Jon Master.